For the groom, the time they spend getting ready is brief. The actual process of getting ready is not long: pants and shirts, perhaps a vest, a tie, shoes, and then the jacket. The most challenging part is without question the boutonniere. He is with his friends there are jokes, affirms slaps on the back and shakes of the hand, a few nervous laughs, and a shrug of the shoulders to shake off the nerves.
For the bride, it is entirely different. There is a quite, nervous energy. No mirror is needed to get ready; she knows how everything is going to sit, how it will feel, how it will look. When she does turn to see herself, it’s not out of criticism, but out of reflection. All the planning is about to pay off, and moments she has to see herself is a time to pause before the festivities begin.